Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Why, Why, Why!!

Welcome to my first installment of WHY Wednesday????? A tantalizing program of all the advice you need for all those many WHY questions, that you were afraid to ask!!

OK here goes. Little background, we homeschool so therefore I am at home with kids everyday, for school. I taxi to classes and rehearsals, church etc. If I ask the 14 and 12 year old to do something for me ie: unload the dishwasher (their chore) load the dishwasher, pick up the living room, take out the garbage etc. Now all these items are part of their chores. THEY IGNORE ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But when Big Daddy comes home for lunch or after work, he will ask them to do the exact thing I've been waiting on and THEY DO IT!!! ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
So now WHY do they do that??????????????????????????

Remember, you answer mine and I'll answer your's . Even if you don't have the answer a bloggy "I understand" will help also!!!

16 comments:

Becky said...

My kids do this too...I think it is because they fear their father a little more than me (haha!) I'm old hat...they are with me all day..Dad means business!

Jennifer said...

I don't know why--but I think this is pretty common for kids! At least they do it for one of you, right!?

Cassandra said...

I agree with Becky! I don't have teenagers yet but even my toddlers don't listen to me like they listen to Daddy! Good luck!

Susy said...

Thank you for stopping by my blog and giving me that wonderful comment!Have a great rest of the week!
By the way I agree with your post!

Susy said...

P.S I home school too!

tara @ kidz said...

LOL! I can't exactly answer this, but I think it's a pretty uniform response for most children. I was that way with my dad. I honestly don't know why, but if Dad said to do it, done. If mom did, ummmm.... maybe later, or maybe not at all. Good luck! ;O)

angi_b72 said...

All I have to say is..."do you wnat me to call your dad?" and whatever I have asked is dome immediately....I don't know why!! Great post!

Davisix said...

It's the opposite in our house. LOL He can tell them to do something and they will usually hem haw around until I give them the "look". That must mean I'm meaner and he's a push over, especially to his girls. :) Ang

JANE said...

What makes me maddest is I'm the meannie at our house and he's the push-over!! Then when they really want to get my goat, they put a little smirk on their face as they go to do their task!!! It wouldn't be so bad except for the 4 hours they've made me wait before!!!!!!
Some days I wonder who's gonna make it out of the jungle alive, LOL!!!!

Kristy said...

i think men have a different tone to their voice. maybe if we try to sound like men they will listen to us more. lol

Lynette said...

Yes that is what makes my daughter really know I mean business. I drop my voice down and speak slower. Most women when they get upset go higher and faster. Lots of kids just tune that out. Heck so do husbands. Try talking slower with a deeper voice. And if they are younger get on their eye level.

Jen Sue Wild said...

I don't have that problem My kids always listen..
Just kidding!!
Because as mommys we are just to nice..

nikkicrumpet said...

Hah..it's because they aren't afraid of you anymore mom...they see you every day and lets face it...they tune us out. Then dad comes home...new voice...new face...and suddenly their little ears are working again! Every time you ask them to do their chores...do it in a different voice with a funny accent...I bet they start hearing you again!

sandy said...

I wish I had that answer. But I can say that you are not alone:)

lmerie said...

Why did I miss this yesterday? Or should that be a how? I seem to be losing time in some kind of pocket. hmmmmm?

Boundaries, dear, boundaries. They are testing them. I read once that we have to endure this throughout raising kids. Always testing then retesting. Only half cook their dinner one evening, and say, oh I just did not want to finish. Be sure to have a camera close by to catch the expression! Priceless! (just in case anyone wonders, no, I would never let them eat the half raw food- they'll notice when they cut into the chicken it is not done).

John Deere Mom said...

Ugh. My 3 and 5 year old do the same thing...and I'm not even home all day with them for them to get bored with me!